A Veggie Valentine’s Day

Whether you agree with the idea of Valentine’s Day or not, this one day each year will probably make you think about and evaluate the relationships you have in your life. For some of us, it will be a motivation to get out there and do a bit more to create loving relationships that enrich our life and inspire us to be a better person.

But being a wannabe vegan can create lots of dating and friendship hurdles.

Almost every aspect of getting to know someone is a potential landmine of vegan questions that could easily derail a budding relationship – why did you get soy milk in your coffee? would you like to go to my favorite steakhouse for dinner? why don’t you like butter on your popcorn?

Luckily, there’s one way of avoiding the whole thing all together – find and date another wannabe vegan! It seems so simple doesn’t it? Where do you find these other like-minded individuals also lookin’ for love? The internet of course! Well, to be honest, there are other places you find them but … here are 3 sites to get you started:

VeggieConnection.com – According to the site, it is the largest dating/friendship site for vegetarians and was the winner of the “Top site to find a veggie mate” by VegNews Magazine. They offer free and paid memberships.

VeggieDate.org – According to the site, there are over 16,000 members. You post a profile that can include whatever you want it to. They offer a 2 week free trial and paid memberships.

PlanetEarthSingles.com – This isn’t just for wannabe vegans; its for everyone who wants to live a ‘green lifestyle’. They offer free and paid memberships. Both offer extensive options and lots of extra fun stuff like tests, etc.

Have you tried any of these sites? Any success? Let us know below!


Is Being Vegan a Dating Deal Breaker?

I recently read a post by Gena Hamshaw of Choosing Raw where she talks about someone who gave up being vegan because of her boyfriend.

That got me thinking. Is being a wannabe vegan a dating deal breaker?

Unless you have met through an online service where the person already knows you about your lifestyle, you have a couple of choices when communicating this information; tell them right away or wait until later in the relationship (assuming all goes well).

I have tried both and I found that waiting worked better for me.

When I brought it up right away, it became more of a debate and judgment crept into the conversation. I think this was because we didn’t know each very well. This made it easier to see it as a distinct difference that was insurmountable instead of an opportunity for both of us to learn more about the other person.

When I revealed it later in a relationship, I treated it as just another detail about who I am, and it was much more natural. It was a nice conversation with questions and answers based on sincere curiosity. Again, I think this was because of the level of understanding we already had with each other.

So, instead of it being a roadblock, it was a chance for me to more fully explore my beliefs and for them to learn about a lifestyle they weren’t really sure about but were open to discovering.

This gave us both the opportunity to see the ‘big picture’ of the other person’s ideals without one issue being so overriding that it became a deal breaker for either.

What has been your experience when dating a vegan / nonvegan? I would love to hear your suggestions /comments on the blog, on Facebook or on Twitter.